10.29.2003
Falling out of Love?
If I should stay | I would only be in your way | So I'll go | But I know | I'll think of you every step of the way... ~ Whitney Houston
Is it possible to fall out of love?
Someone asked this question today on keithboykin.com, and it got me to thinking if you love someone, I mean really love someone can you fall out of love with them?
The answer, my answer, is no.
When pre-drugged out Whitney sang the now classic I Will Always Love You, she sung of a brave true love. A love that said sincerely: Look, I know I'm not the one for you so I'm going to go and let you find what it is you need, but know this: I will always love you.
It is impossible to end love, simply because love is forever whereas relationships---that thing that usually follows love around like a bad habit---aren't.
Relationships come and go, while love lasts long after the fire has gone. And that fire equals passion. Many people, myself included have confused love and passion for one in the same. Again, love is everlasting, while passion is fleeting. Love endures to the end, while passion lasts but a while. Love is nurturing and supportive, while passion at times can be very, very dangerous. For example, have you not heard of crimes of passion? Acts thought to have been commited in love, but were/are actually committed for selfish/inconsiderate reasons, by selfish/inconsiderate people.
When a relationship comes to an end, the love does not die. When the passion fades, the love does not die. Even if you say you hate the person, you actually don't. What you hate is what they did to you, or how they made you feel. But, buried beneath all of that is, guess what, love.
The person who asked the question wanted to know how he could fall out of love with someone who could not return his affection. The sad truth is, he can't. He just has to learn to love enough to let go, and move on. It's as simple as that.
What are your thoughts?
Is it possible to fall out of love?Someone asked this question today on keithboykin.com, and it got me to thinking if you love someone, I mean really love someone can you fall out of love with them?
The answer, my answer, is no.
When pre-drugged out Whitney sang the now classic I Will Always Love You, she sung of a brave true love. A love that said sincerely: Look, I know I'm not the one for you so I'm going to go and let you find what it is you need, but know this: I will always love you.
It is impossible to end love, simply because love is forever whereas relationships---that thing that usually follows love around like a bad habit---aren't.
Relationships come and go, while love lasts long after the fire has gone. And that fire equals passion. Many people, myself included have confused love and passion for one in the same. Again, love is everlasting, while passion is fleeting. Love endures to the end, while passion lasts but a while. Love is nurturing and supportive, while passion at times can be very, very dangerous. For example, have you not heard of crimes of passion? Acts thought to have been commited in love, but were/are actually committed for selfish/inconsiderate reasons, by selfish/inconsiderate people.
When a relationship comes to an end, the love does not die. When the passion fades, the love does not die. Even if you say you hate the person, you actually don't. What you hate is what they did to you, or how they made you feel. But, buried beneath all of that is, guess what, love.
The person who asked the question wanted to know how he could fall out of love with someone who could not return his affection. The sad truth is, he can't. He just has to learn to love enough to let go, and move on. It's as simple as that.
What are your thoughts?
